Every time I bring up a past girlfriend, someone inevitably says, “It’s not her you miss; it’s the idea of her!” And the best part, I’ve heard this so much that I’m starting to believe it. But then I look and realize, what the hell does that even mean?
It’s one of those old sayings like “time heals all” and “pants first, then shoes” that we all know and we all know it’s true, but is it really something you don’t fully understand and aren’t even sure if it’s true all the time. (Note: I definitely have put on shorts after my shoes are already on…)
But what’s the difference between the idea of someone and someone themselves? I can see if I say I miss being in a relationship that it doesn’t matter, but if I say, “I miss
Sure I miss the idea of her, but how do you separate the idea from the person?
If you miss the idea of someone, don’t you miss that person? I miss the idea of having someone in my arms. I miss the idea of being in love. But I still have those ideas. It’s the specifics I miss. If I missed the ideas, they’d be gone and I wouldn’t have the ideas to compare to reality and I wouldn’t miss her at all.
This may or may not be a true thing in my life right now, but it is a phrase that I constantly grapple with and really hate. So those are my thoughts for now. A short entry, yes, but I hope this one opens up a lot of comments…
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